Snakes and Ladders

Snakes and Ladders

Life’s a game. When you realise that, you can see it is entirely up to you how you choose to play and what character you will be.

Any game should be played with integrity and honesty to fully enjoy it, just try and have fun along the way and really live life. One fabulous weekend
away staying with friends, the most amazing conversation started at about 9.30pm. We openly discussed our late teens and early twenties and what we
would have done differently if we had had the knowledge we have now. Of course hindsight is a wonderful thing, but the light-hearted, story-telling
conversation quickly turned into a deep discussion about how we can help and influence our own children with the knowledge we have gained.

Our journeys through life have taught us valuable lessons and our experiences have shaped us into who we are today. No amount of teaching can prepare us
for living through the real events. Consider the jobs we have as teenagers, for example. I won a supermarket scanning competition; I had to stand on
the stage, greet the customer, scan the groceries, exchange money and give correct change as well as pack the groceries correctly to ensure nothing
got squashed or broken.

Another friend had won the Golden Spatula from McDonalds for greeting, ordering and packing the drive-through orders correctly. It was a bit of silly fun
which was appropriate for teenagers, and we enjoyed being recognised as a great employee. It’s interesting how these seemingly trivial things shaped our views and inspired us to greater things.

It’s impossible to measure how important these events are as we can’t go back and undo them; they are intrinsically embedded in our fabric and they help
shape our perspectives and goals for the future. There are lessons and obstacles in life that we parents can’t teach our children, but we can try to
prepare them to deal with the ups and downs life will throw at them. During the conversation we discussed whether life should be difficult or easy—how
much of what we did was influenced by rebelling against our parents or by learning the hard way. We were not trying to decide who was right or wrong,
but rather, just trying to understand how we have achieved things and how we might teach our children to aspire to be happy and successful.

Two hours later we had still not solved the world’s problems, and I went to bed thinking
it all over. It was very early in the morning when I realised we were all climbing different ladders, like the Snakes and Ladders game. You probably
played it as a child; I still play it now with my kids. If life is just a game, then imagine it is one giant game of Snakes and Ladders. You roll the
dice a few times to get going, and slowly but surely, step-by-step you start moving forward.

Everything is fine for a few turns and then the game starts. You feel pretty good until your next roll brings you to a snake’s head and you tumble all
the way down to its tail. You feel you have gone back several steps to where you were previously: one step forward, two steps back. It’s our ability
to overcome these setbacks that is important. When you are on the back foot and the others in the game seem so much further ahead of you, do you give
up or keep on rolling and hope that you catch back up to them? As it’s only a game and we were taught not to be sore losers, we continue to play.

Then, as we move forward again, we see our competitors start to slide, allowing us to catch up again. The other half of the game is the ladders. Suddenly
we roll the right number and land on a ladder that shoots us up higher and faster than we thought possible, right past the other players.

Now we feel great! It’s just a game, but life is like that. If you land on a snake
and slide down, treat it as a learning curve. See opportunities along the way and climb the ladders of life. We have all rolled the dice to the elusive
six that landed us on a huge ladder and boy it felt great. We’ve all played with team members who seem to always be lucky, but wouldn’t it be nice
if you were the lucky one?

You can be responsible for your own fate based on how you feel.

  • Do you feel lost and confused?
  • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
  • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
  • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
  • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
  • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
  • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
  • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
  • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

  • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
  • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
  • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the innate intelligence of the natural world. In life we will
    all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however, for each individual and for every different journey there
    is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed to support us to create and live the life we want.
  • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise the
    gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

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