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How to Reduce Stress Naturally

 

Chaos to calm is a journey

 


 

You need the journey so that you enjoy the destination.

When a child is little you explain complex life situations in a simple form and expand it as they grow.

Your #calmcue sign is a drop in a small stream. It will flow to a bigger river. There will be twists and turns along the way. You can enjoy the ride or
keep fighting up stream. I found my little stream lead to a river which then lead to an amazing ocean.

The ocean is where I have learnt to surf the waves and also enjoy the calm beaches. I am still a drop, yet I see the bigger picture and the view from here
is amazing. If you also want to find your ocean then I can help you. The ocean has an amazing ability to calm itself and so can you.

The drop in the stream is your baseline, your chaos, your struggles right now

The river is the journey and where you grow to allow and accept change

The ocean is the calm and where the real fun is

You are where you are, your experiences good or bad have got you here. This is your baseline and where you start the journey to find your calm.

This is the journey I took from chaos to calm:

  • Found my baseline
  • Increased awareness
  • Acknowledged my journey so far and my potential
  • Discovered my external chaos
  • Found my control was internal
  • Realised that every challenge make me stronger
  • I let go of what was not serving me
  • Daily see my #calmcue sign
  • Use my first aid #calmcue to connect to myself, self-administered, self-control, self-empowering.

You don’t need to figure stuff out, you clear the mind and the body calms so you can move through the situation easier. This doesn’t stop the chaos, it
gives you the self-knowledge to find your calm in an instant.

There are 86,400 seconds in a day. Surely you can afford to spend 3 seconds a day doing my calm technique!

Here are some stories I  have written, listed in ordered to help you on your journey from chaos to calm:

 


 

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How do I breathe to get Calm

How do I breathe to get Calm

Breathing is something that we do naturally and yet so many of us are doing it wrong. Consciously breathing is certainly NOT a high priority on busy people’s
radar. You might not even be aware of your breathe until you are exercising.

I have even read that it is a new age practice. Correct me if I am wrong but breathing is critical to every human being and should be done not just daily
but all the time.

There are circular breathing techniques, counting while you breathe in and holding your breath before exhaling, sleep techniques, the win hof method, transformation
breathing, holotropic breathwork and the list goes on. The apple watch has a circular breathing graphic. Calm app has a breathing button too.

There are so many benefits to discovering how breathing properly can help you. My technique is not to be underestimated as just simply breathing. It is
a technique I have spent 10 years figuring out and is a combination of a number of modalities combined to make it your first aid technique to use when
you are stress, anxious or depressed.

My technique might seem ridiculously easy yet all I have done is made it sound so simple that you will want to do it a few times a day because it feels
so good and the benefits can be felt immediately and long term.

A google search gave me this result “Breathwork is a general term used to describe any type of therapy that utilizes breathing exercises to improve mental,
physical, and spiritual health”

The benefits of doing breathing exercises are:

  • Lower heart rate
  • Lowers high blood pressure
  • Relieves stress
  • Reduces tension
  • Increased your oxygen supply
  • Relaxing and calming
  • Self healing
  • Emotional stability
  • Brakes the chaos of your thoughts by giving your brain something to focus on other than your worries

I am not claiming any of these health benefits, my intention is to share what works for me and I encourage you to do your own research and discovery.

This is my calm technique:

  • Stop – Stop thinking
  • Breath – Take one deep breathe
  • Smile – Smile one positive thought

 

To even try and stop thinking is nearly impossible so I shift my focus to my diaphragm.

Place your right hand at the bottom of your left ribs. This anchors your intent to breathe deeply. Your hand anchors positive beliefs.

Breathe in deeply and fill your lungs and stomach. Slow deep breaths.

When you breathe consciously you mind stops racing and overthinking as you are giving it a task to do.

Check out this video where I demonstrate how to use my #calmcue First Aid breathing technique

 


 

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Do coincidences really exist? Do they?

 

Do coincidences really exist? Do they?

I don’t think anything is random. Sometimes you have to look back at all the events leading up to the coincidence and realise that everything happened
for a reason.

You made choices along the way to get where you were for the coincidence to show up.

You can analyse it till the cows come home but sometimes you just have to go with the flow and jump at every opportunity that is in front of you.

You might not know where it will take you but if it feels right then jump. Of course, if it feels wrong then that is your warning system and you should
listen.

I will share with you a string of events that lead me to having my first article published in a magazine.

It was a normal weekend towards the end of last year and I was flicking through a local magazine, you know the general, what happening around town magazine
that gets thrown on your driveway. I was sitting in bed having a coffee and wondering what to do and also relishing the fact that there was nothing
scheduled, no where to be, no sporting event to run the kids to etc. You know the joys of being a parent and some weekends it’s unrelenting.

I saw an ad for the mind, body, spirit festival and it happened to be on today. My husband said I should go. You see I wasn’t feeling in a happy place
so it was probably a message of ‘go and enjoy yourself’ mixed with ‘I know you will be happier when you get back after a few hours away’.

The decision was made in the spur of the moment and to be honest I probably could not race out the house quick enough for some ‘me’ time. The festival
was only a few minutes away which was also an added bonus.

Within 5 minutes of arriving there was a guided meditation starting. My first reaction was that I wanted to jump in and see the festival, all the stalls
and soak up the atmosphere.

There was something about the way the lady at the front desk told me about the meditation and I made the decision that it was probably best for me to relax,
find some calm and clear my thoughts. Half an hour later my energy had completely changed and I was not only calm but probably the calmest I had been
in weeks.

I wandered around the brightly coloured stall, sampled the wonderful food, smelt the incense and plucked up the courage to talk about my second book Free
to be me that I was days away from finished.

At one of the stalls I met Sharon Rowland, the editor of the Oddities e-Club Magazine. I mentioned my book Free to be me and she offered to review it.
I was over the moon. It still took me a further couple of months before the book was ready for release but I remembered to send it to Sharon.

Little did I know that I would be invited to write an article for the magazine and contribute more stories.

I am pleased to share with you the latest edition for you to check out https://www.magloft.com/app/oddities and their website www.odditieseclub.com

So had I not read the local magazine, or mentioned the festival, or been pushed (in a loving way) to go, or talked to Sharon, then this would never have
happened. So you decide, do coincidences really exist or was this just a string of events that lead me to the right place at the right time? 

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Tips to Calm Down and De-Stress with Calming Music

Tips to Calm Down and De-Stress with Calming Music

I was inspired to write this based on my experience yesterday. After yet another terrible night’s sleep I found myself wandering round in a daze and my
head was spinning with confusion. Most of the time I sleep ok now that I have a few strategies in place and incase you haven’t read it here is my blog
on how I cured my insomnia.

I used to sleep well until a few years ago I suffered under a huge amount of stress and despite the stress being over it still plagues me. It has taken
me years to reflect on why, how and what I am doing to self-sabotage myself with my sleep patterns.

My main cause is over thinking which I am sure most of you can relate to. I will wake in the early hours and start thinking of an unresolved issue, awkward
conversation or what I have to do today. It’s just plain exhausting and after a few nights of restless sleep it really catches up on me and I am beyond
exhausted.

One strategy that works for me is chanting. There are so many sayings to chant that I definitely don’t want to overwhelm you but share some of my favourites.
Some of these will resonate with you right away and others will probably send your brain into more chaos. So songs you like to listen to over and over
again and some you only like when you are in a certain mental state.

For example calming music is of course awesome for calming you, however, when you are inspired and in flow and have a deadline to meet you will probably
want very upbeat lively music. Of course you would not listen to loud beating wake up music just before you go to sleep. The same is true first thing
in the morning, the last music you would pick would be sad slow sleepy music when you are getting ready for work because it would probably make you
want to jump right back into bed and not face the day.

My solution yesterday to my foggy brain was to sit quietly and ‘try’ and meditate. I say try because I have learnt to recognise that when I am in this state it is almost impossible to stop thinking and
actually get out of my head. My to-do-list seems to grow 10 fold when I am in the chaos state and the more I try and relax the more I want to add to
my list. So my meditation went something like this:

  • Find a quiet warm spot where I was not going to be disturbed for half
    an hour.
  • Set an alarm for the desired time and that allows my brain to relax a little knowing that I am giving myself this precious time and also that I will
    still have plenty of time to get up and keep going about my day.
  • Have a pen and paper handy and right in front of me. When I have an idea or remember more to add to my to-do-list I can scribble it down and this then
    allows me to know I won’t forget it and therefore I can put it out of my mind for now.
  • Problems keep arising when I am in this state and I don’t get cross with myself which causes more stress and confusion. I allow the thoughts to rise,
    write it down and then send the thought floating away in a pink balloon.
  • Listen to chanting music.

The biggest tip and trick I really want to share with you is how I calm my monkey mind down with chanting.

If you are an A-type personality like me then just doing one task at a time if not enough. I just can’t do it. Trying to meditate and only focus on my
breathing gives my mind plenty of opportunity to get bored and wander off back onto the track of all my chaos. Just telling myself to stop thinking
is impossible!

Chanting gives my mind something to do. Breathing deeply gives my body something to do. When I sync my chants to my breathing and another key point I want
to share is that I breathe into my heart. This is one of the most powerful tips you can do. Try it… When you brain waves and heart energy is
connected you will find an inner calm. The rhythm is like slow dancing to your favourite song, it is effortless to slowly sway in time to the beat
of the music and it is very relaxing and calming.

There are times I really love guided meditations and yet as I said before sometimes it’s the wrong time of the day and I get frustrated listening and it
is not resonating with me. Other times I only want music with no words at all and other times white noise and nature soothe me.

In summary

Now that I am familiar with these chants I will repeat one phrase over and over in the early hours of the morning and now I go back to sleep within minutes.
Without these chants I would lie awake for hours as I just could not turn my brain off. I don’t get upset with myself for waking, I just breathe and
chant.

  • Try all different ways to relax before you go to bed
  • Vary the music and chants you listen to depending on your mood and the time of the day
  • Learn to listen to your body and sync your brain and heart especially at 4am and allow yourself to relax
  • BREATHE deeply into your heart and sync your breathing to your heart beat
  • Chant and keep the monkey mind just busy enough and this stops the endless flow of chronic overthinking 

 

To get you started here is a list of my favourite chanting music.

My Pinterest board: Chanting Om Music

6 hours – Tibetan bowls – here is the you tube
link

3 hours – Nam Myoho Renge Kyo – here is the you tube link

2 hours – 528 Hz Heart Chakra Balance and Emotional Stability– here is the
you tube link

1 hour – Om Kleem – here is the you tube link

30 mins – Om mani padme hum – here is the you tube link

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Finding Your Inner Calm With Art

Finding Your Inner Calm With Art 

I wanted to share this beautiful guest post from Sarah at A Cat Like Curiosity and how she uses her Art to find balance and calm in her life and how you can tap into your own creativity to find Calm and Conquer your own chaos.
I also had the wonderful opportunity to guest blog on her site and here is my article, check it out.

I am a real devotee of calm. I try to invite as much of it as I can into my life. I am absolutely the opposite of a drama queen!

Sometimes though, our little inner sanctum of calm is disturbed. Maybe our friends or family members need help with a difficult situation. Maybe we’re
invited out to a social event that turns a little too raucous or developes into arguments and fights.

It’s not always possible to avoid drama altogether.

But we can choose how we respond to drama in our lives.

I choose to keep calm and craft on!

Here are my favourite things to do when things seem out of balance and I’m craving calm:

1. Art journalling
 
I have a small journal I use for daily doodles and some larger ones I use to create and experiement with different mixed media techniques. I love working
in these as they are total play spaces. They are a chance for me to let my inner child out to play. I always feel calmer after I’ve let myself create.
 
2. Collaging on canvas
 
If I am feeling totally stuck, often a bit of collaging helps get me unstuck. The simple act of cutting and sticking is meditative in it’s own way. It’s
a simple and repetitive task that helps you unwind. The papers you collage down also give you all sorts of ideas for paint colours and you suddenly
find you’re off creating a new canvas without a care in the world!
 
3. Playing around with paint
 
I love to just splash paint around! Experimenting with different colour combinations, different ways of making marks on the canvas and letting myself be
just completely free is great fun! Even if I cover it all up at the end I know I will have learned something and I will have had pure fun in doing
so.

The simple act of taking time out for yourself is the key really. By sitting down in your painting space you are affirming to your soul self that you are
important enough to warrant this time, this attention. And this is powerful.

If you’d like some help with getting started creatively feel free to check out my website acatlikecuriosity.com

I have a gorgeous (and free!) Curious Library that is full of mini ECourses, EBooks and Creative Challenges galore! I also have lots of arty ECourses and
my Curiously Gorgeous Sisterhood for those of you who want to create calm with creativity regularly.

Have a wonderful day lovelies!

Sarah Leonard
Auric Artist and Creativity Coach
 

 

I hope you enjoyed this blog and please email me directly to guest blog enquiries xo

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12 Ways to Tap Into Your Own Creativity

 

12 Ways to Tap Into Your Own Creativity 

 

Creativity is the ability to bring new ideas into existence and allows us to ignite the passion within us to solve problems and find solutions to issues
we have to deal with in our day to day lives.

While it seems like some people have all of the creative juices inside of them and they are continually bursting with amazing ideas and different concepts
and solutions it is something that you too can tap into for your own benefit.

Everyone is creative in their own unique way.

Everyone has a talent that they enjoy.

Everyone can tap into their right brain.

The right side of the brain is responsible for, the left side of the body’s functions including Musical awareness, Holistic thoughts, Intuition, Art awareness,
Imagination and importantly Creativity.

The left side of the brain is responsible for, controlling the right side of the body’s function such as Logic, Language, Science, Math and Number skills,
Written functions and our reasoning.

Creativity is your intelligence having fun!

The ability to become more creative is something that we can all learn and tap into as it is just a process that we need to focus more attention on and
develop our skills and expertise over time.

The more you use your brain the more it will function allowing you to unearth creative juices you never knew you had.

Try some of these techniques below to get your creative mind working,

Get back to Nature:

Nature has a great way of connecting us to the real world (don’t take your phone) and ensures that we are in the present moment with just the sounds, sights
and smells of the great outdoors. The natural environment allows you to clear your mind and just focus on the beauty and creativity all around you.

Play some Music:

Music has the ability to create all types of feelings and emotions within us. To me that is the great thing about music. It allows you to escape for a
period of time into another world and immerse yourself in the soulful tunes of your favourite band.

Your own Quite Time:

It’s important for everyone to have time alone to think over things in your life along with allowing
you to clearly focus on what you want to do in the future. Having this time to yourself can allow you to clear your mind of your daily worries and
free up your energy to focus on your more creative ideas and projects.

Mindfulness:

Mindfulness colouring is still huge and an excellent way to calm your brain and thoughts. It really doesn’t matter what you choose and what interests you,
if you enjoy it, do it because those good feelings create more good feelings.

Swap Hands:

By using your other hand more often you will be creating new connections in your brain similar to the way your body grows muscles when you do exercise.
Try this with your mouse or even when brushing your teeth. It’s a great way to build new connections even if it feels a little strange at first.

Remove yourself from Technology:

Put it down, turn it off and walk away. Technology is great for finding information and staying connected but you still need to disconnect from all of
this technology and allow yourself to just be in the moment and absorb what is happening around you.

Do something for You:

It’s important to do things for yourself instead of continually trying to meet the needs of everyone else in your life. Sometimes the simple act of relaxing
in a hot bath, enjoying a massage or engaging in an activity that is close to your heart will allow you to get rid of all of those thoughts racing
around in your head and just allow you to focus on you and you alone.

Stop being Critical:

We can be our worse enemies when it comes to being too critical of what we do and who we are. Remove yourself from difficult situations and allow yourself
to look at the situation from a different perspective. This may just allow you to come up with some creative solutions to your critical thoughts

Live in the Now:

Living in the now and being present in the moment will create space and time allowing your creative spirit to flow with creative ideas and concepts you
may not have thought of before.

Feel your Feelings:

Think back to the last time you had a creative spark. What feelings did you have? How did they make you feel? What made you have these feelings? How did
these feelings help you in the creative process? Take note of these happy wonderful feelings and look at how you can use these in your everyday life
as well as when you are looking at being creative.

Relax, Daydream And Unwind:

The creative mind works best when it is relaxed and not processing thousands of thoughts. If you are highly worried or stressed your creativity will be
stifled by all of these stories running around in your head. The art of unwinding and daydreaming can be a difficult one to masted these days with
our busy and connected lives. Take the time to switch off and daydream letting your mind wonder without a worry or care. You may be surprised where
your thoughts and mind take you

Have fun and enjoy the Moment:

As adults we tend to play by the rules and forget to enjoy that childlike spirit that lives inside of us. Next time you are doing something you love make
sure that you clear your mind of all of your issues and just enjoy the present moment right in front of you and have fun in the process.

Creativity is like any process that we learn and practice to fit in with our daily lives. Once you learn how to tap into this creative energy within you
see how you can interact with your creative spirit.

Pop over to my Facebook page <<link>> and post your creative activity.

My bliss today is writing and drawing J

Namaste Mikayla

 

 

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My Vision Board Worked

My Vision Board Worked

I started working for an international medical company and learnt that each year they awarded a first class, all expenses paid trip to the top 12 sales
people and one other lucky recipient. To win the prize you had to smash your sales targets.

The one other recipient was someone who can complete their job above and beyond what was expected. It was voted for by peers and the directors. I decided
that it would be a dream come true if I won. I set the intention (to win this award)
and wrote the goal down on a piece of paper that I taped behind the headboard of my bed and then I moved on. I didn’t dwell on it, I didn’t get upset
that it wasn’t coming true, I just set the intent and forgot it.

I continued working the best I could for a year and a half. I enjoyed the annual overseas trips from Australia to Paris and the Netherlands to attend meetings.
I travelled around Australia, sometimes flying into a city, working for a few hours and then flying home. It was an extreme goal as there were 10,000
employees all eligible for the one prize.

One morning I woke up and checked my phone to find 10 missed calls and messages from my boss wanting to speak to me urgently. I called her back worried
that something may be wrong and we needed to ship out a medical device for a patient urgently.

Thankfully I was wrong. My manager quickly said Hi to me and then said “hang on a minute” and She hands the phone over to the President of our company
who is in a room full of our staff from all over the world. He introduces himself and explains the setting they are in and then he proceeded to tell
me that I Had Won the Award.

I couldn’t believe it.

I was so shocked.

I was happy.

I was excited.

I was honoured to have received this award from all of the staff around the world.

I was screaming (once I got off the phone).

I won the trip for my husband and I to go to the Caribbean.

I few days after I had taken the phone call and the joy of the trip and the reality of what I had just achieved had sunk in, I remembered about the goal
I had written down and showed my husband the piece of paper. I had not told him about it in case he laughed or hadn’t taken me seriously. I also wanted
to show him that when you have a dream that is huge there is nothing you can do to control the outcome you have to trust in the process that the universe
has lined this up for me.

The ‘how’ was taken care of. Yes I took action daily by not just turning up to work but going above and beyond what was expected of me. The reward was
mind blowing. It involved a 10 day trip to LA, Miami and Antigua. Cocktail parties, private boat trips, zip lining in a rain forest, jet skiing and
business class flights and five star accommodation. (Feeling very special).

We had one free night, which happened to be our wedding anniversary and we celebrated it in style with a romantic private dinner on the beach. We had a
meeting with the chef prior and he had arrange the special 3 course meal just for us. The meal included cocktails, wine and our own waiter. Best of
all, it didn’t cost us a cent.

Months prior to winning the trip I had also put a picture on our vision board. The picture was at sunset, a table at the end of a pier, candles and table
cloth to show it was a 6 star experience. A romantic dinner for two in an ideal tropical location. Presto – I was living it! Two dreams came true at
the same time.

My vision board worked – jump over to the Facebook page and let me know what’s
on your vision board and when one of your visions came true.

Love and light Mikayla

 

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See New Things

See New Things

Eckhart Tolle’s new book is titled A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose. I saw him on Oprah and decided to read the book to see what the buzz
was all about.

Quite a lot of my friends have the book, but haven’t yet read it because they find it too much of an effort to plough through. I had already started to
write this book and got stuck. I didn’t feel I had enough information about how to use signs and why I felt it was so important to have a visual reminder
to stay focussed. I was fortunate to be flying to New Zealand alone for a long weekend to celebrate my father’s 70th birthday and was getting excited
about having several hours to myself to read and not be interrupted, disturbed or needed for mother or wife duties. I started reading the book and
was instantly hooked. I was organised with highlighters, pencil and page markers and absorbed myself with what he was saying.



The first page simply sang out to me because of the silent sermon that Buddha gave about a flower. Therefore I am dedicating a whole chapter of my book
to his book, to tell you the messages I got from it, because what I learnt had such a profound effect on me. I finally got what my life’s purpose is:
to write this book, to get this message across to as many people as possible. I hope to affect your life in a positive way to help you. So this chapter
is a summary of Eckhart’s book in the hope that you read and learn from it too.

I want to simplify his messages and encourage you to read his books, and many others including the Bible, to help you be happy and find your luck. But
that is just some of my purpose. My purpose is also to enjoy every moment of every day. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow has not yet appeared, but I am
here, right now, writing this and you are here, right now, reading this. That is the point. I finally understood what all the books I had read were
saying. My heart is pounding while I write this because I can’t type fast enough to say how excited I am about how I found my enlightenment.



I have been searching for more than 20 years, and suddenly it hit me like a bolt of lightning. Even now, I need to remind myself daily to be happy,
because I need to give myself the time to contemplate and be in touch with my spirit. Buddha used the lotus flower, and the dove signifies the
Holy Spirit in Christianity. Visually reminding ourselves every day is awakening.

Your sign is your own personal signpost to shift your focus and attention. It really is hard to see the wood for the trees. In order to see what’s
in front of you, you need to stop looking at the forest and start trying different angles. In the forest there are trees, grass, flowers, birds,
insects, leaves, sunlight and space. That is a small list of what you can see if you look. Now imagine what you can’t see. The roots of the trees
underground that allow them to grow, worms to aerate the soil, ants, ladybirds and spiders, or even caterpillars just waiting to be butterflies!
Simply changing where you stand to see the forest allows your mind to see it differently. What would the forest look like from above?



By running through this exercise, you can start to think outside the box. Then you can stop letting your emotions, vision and preconceived perceptions
dictate your reality. Create a space that opens your mind and heart to see and feel more. The original voice in your head which told you what to
think when you see the forest is now not entirely accurate. There is more to the forest that you imagine when you take the time to stop, look and
feel it. The same can be said about what we think we are; Eckhart says, “The voice in my head is not who I am”. I am encouraging you to realise
that you are more than the labels you have given yourself. Seeing who you are not is part of realising who you are.

Even Buddha said, “Life isn’t as serious as my mind makes it out to be”. Stop and see the trees. Try and enjoy “just being”, and remember that “just
being” must be felt and not thought. We are our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. Dreams help resolve the conflict between the ego and
consciousness. We are our egos, I and me at the same time. We are living our own reality. What we are living right now is our experience; how we
interpret and feel about it will affect how we react and feel. Practice enjoying reading this. Smile. Breathe in and out four times.

Look around you and find something beautiful to look at. Look to your left, look right, look up, look down. I rented one of the worst rooms in a bedsit
in London once. I had a room with two single beds and found myself with a Spanish roommate. We shared a kitchen with another bedroom that was occupied
by an Italian girl. The whole floor shared a communal bathroom. There were rooms within rooms, behind doors and down a large corridor. Floor after
floor of rooms full of strangers. The rent was cheap for London prices, but it really was depressing and dismal.

The owner would come in and go through our belongings and my roommate had her heater confiscated, which left us cold in the winter. The reason I share
this story is because if I was reading this chapter and looking around that room, the most miserable place on the coldest of days, I would struggle
to see anything good. I understand how dark surroundings can be depressing, and yet I have very fond memories of laughing a lot there, and chatting
till the early hours in broken Spanish and Italian. The bright side of life was my roommates and not the surroundings.

I got a night job as well as a day job and saved even harder to get out of there, but that was the experience I needed at the time. Had I realised
then what I know now, I would have stuck the biggest, brightest, blue butterfly at the foot my bed as a reminder to stay focused—a visual
reminder to look on the bright side.



  • Do you feel lost and confused?
  • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
  • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
  • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
  • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
  • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
  • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
  • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
  • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

  • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
  • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
  • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the innate intelligence of the natural world. In life we
    will all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however, for each individual and for every different journey
    there is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed to support us to create and live the life we
    want.
  • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise
    the gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

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Are You Emotionally Stressed

Are You Emotionally Stressed

Every time you think or feel an emotion, it has an effect on your body and your body releases chemicals. When you feel happy your brain creates serotonin,
dopamine or oxytocin. When you are stressed your body releases cortisol.

These chemicals make your body react in different ways either positively or negatively. In reality, there is not actually a positive or negative, only
your perception of it! When you understand this, then you will realise you have a choice about how you feel or react. Our perception of an experience
is everything and yet the first step is accepting the situation as it is and how you feel.

The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. This might just
be a play on words but the word “loneliness” was created to express the pain of being alone, and the word “solitude” to express the glory of being
alone. Is it a play on words or more about how you perceive them? Don’t try to understand everything. Sometimes it is not meant to be understood, just
accepted.

This is exactly why I try and look at the positive in everything. The difficulties in life are intended to make us better, not bitter. Emotions and experiences are energy and your body processes and stores them. This can make you healthy or sick. Your body is connected
to your mind, you can have destructive thoughts, and this creates bad feelings.



When you feel happier you give off that vibe and your body feels happier. Is it “your sign finding you” or “you finding you sign”? Does it matter how your
sign finds you? No! Some days I wear butterfly jewellery just so I know I am surrounded and protected. Other times I see butterflies as tattoos or
stickers on cars.

No matter where I encounter my sign, I consider it as important in some way. I have butterfly stickers on by bathroom mirror. Some days I just don’t notice
them. Looking for your sign or seeing it is the same thing and either way it doesn’t matter. Encountering your sign is always a positive thing.

  • Do you feel lost and confused?
  • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
  • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
  • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
  • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
  • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
  • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
  • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
  • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

  • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
  • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
  • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the innate
    intelligence of the natural world. In life we will all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however, for each
    individual and for every different journey there is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed to support
    us to create and live the life we want.
  • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise the
    gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

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Dealing With Adversity

Dealing With Adversity

Rainbows are my second sign:

I am fascinated by how they appear and I think they are the most beautiful spectacle nature has to offer. Rainbows are in fact very simple; they are just
a case of optics. In basic terms, we don’t see the white light that goes into a prism yet we can see the rainbow at the other end.



In a similar fashion, perspective works for us. What we put into our subconscious reflects who we are. You can look at a glass and call it half full or
half empty; it contains the same amount of water. I want you to view yourself, life, love and nature differently. Shit happens; how are you going to
deal with it? The author of the following tale is unknown, but it is a provoking story that will hopefully make you think about how you react when
adversity knocks on your door.

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? A young woman went to her mother and complained about how hard her life was. It seemed as if as soon as one problem was solved a new one arose. She said that she did not know how she was going to
continue and just wanted to give up: she was tired of fighting and struggling. Her mother took her to the kitchen. Her mother filled three pots with
water: in the first she placed carrots; in the second she placed eggs; in the last she placed ground coffee beans.



She put all three pots on the stove and let them come to a boil without saying a word. About twenty minutes later, she turned off the burners. She fished
out the carrots and put them in a bowl. Then she carefully lifted out the eggs and placed them in another bowl. Finally she ladled the coffee into
a third bowl. Turning to her daughter, she said, “Tell me what you see”. “Carrots, eggs, and coffee”, she replied, monosyllabically. The mother asked
her to feel the carrots, which she did, noting they felt soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. As the daughter took off the shell,
she observed the hard-boiled egg inside. Finally, the mother asked her to sip the coffee and the daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The
daughter then asked, “So, what’s the point, mother?”

Her mother explained that each item had faced the same adversity—boiling water— but each reacted differently.

  • The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but after being subjected to the boiling water, became soft and weak.
  • The egg, that had once been fragile and runny inside the shell, had now hardened as a result of the boiling water.
  • The ground coffee beans were unique, however: they thrived in the situation and worked to change the water, not themselves.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Think about yourself, both how you are normally and how you react to challenges:

  • Are you the carrot that seems hard, but wilts and softens in the face of adversity? You appear as a weaker version of what you once were, a limp character
    without any strength.
  • Are you the egg, which starts off fluid, but hardens as a result of the difficulties faced; perhaps a death, a breakup, a divorce, or a layoff? Your
    shell looks the same, but your spirit and heart have toughened.
  • Or are you like the coffee bean and thrive in the face of adversity? If you are like the bean, you excel and flourish when things are at their worst
    and you actively work to make things around you better.

Put simply, things happen to us that we can’t control. But how we react to the situation
will determine our level of happiness. Change sometimes feels like being on a rollercoaster. The ups and downs can make you quite sick and some days
make you want to scream “Get me off”.

Life just doesn’t let you off though, but when things calm down, like the ride finishing, you can reflect on what you learnt. May you have enough happiness
to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes their way. The brightest future
will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

“I am a coffee bean”. That is my current mantra. It is easy for people and books to say “don’t stress” or “go with the flow and great things will come”,
but sometimes it’s impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel. That’s why we need to work on staying positive and motivated. Zig Ziglar astutely
said, “Motivation doesn’t last. Bathing doesn’t either. That’s why I recommend it daily”.

  • Do you feel lost and confused?
  • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
  • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
  • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
  • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
  • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
  • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
  • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
  • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

  • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
  • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
  • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the
    innate intelligence of the natural world. In life we will all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however,
    for each individual and for every different journey there is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed
    to support us to create and live the life we want.
  • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise
    the gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

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