Free to me be, Resilience

Celebrate Small Successes

Celebrate Small Successes

On a typical day I sat down to make a few calls, a few I had been putting off because I knew it would take a few minutes to either chat or navigate around the menu, push 1 for this option, 2 for this option etc. The first call was to the dentist to book a clean, we confirmed a date and time and I wrote this down.

I don’t know about you but I forget if I don’t write it down then I stress about trying to remember it. I write everything down as it enforces it in my
brain. Especially goals, if you write them down you are more likely to achieve them as you set your intentions.

Before I had even hung up I moved straight to my next item on my ‘to do’ list. Call medical insurance because they denied a claim for my daughter which I knew I was entitled to.

It had been a long process which I won’t bore you with but let’s just say, 3 dental opinions, general anaesthetic procedure, braces, poor kid with sore
teeth for two weeks, bills, anaesthetist, hospital fees, medicare and this was the final piece at the end of all this drama.

After entering all my details and navigating through the phone automation, I was finally chatting to a real person and once I had explained everything
this was his actual response “Sorry but we only looked at the first line of the form and that item was not claimable so we stopped, denied your whole
claim, and didn’t look at the next item.” Sincere apology, the refund will be in your account tomorrow.

As he was saying this I had mentally ticked this off my ‘to do’ list and was already thinking of my next call.

Wait.

Stop.

Congratulate myself on small successes. This is my ridiculously simple technique.

Stop thinking. Take one deep breathe. Smile. That is it and it only takes seconds. Not minutes or hours.

So in between calls I celebrated. Dentist booked. Medical claim finally complete and a refund, happy dance.

Stop. Breathe. Smile.

Join me to find out how this can mathematically and scientifically be explained with the chaos theory. One small change right now, radically changes the
outcome. The effect might appear random and insignificant and yet it creates order out of chaos.

Its ridiculously simple and that’s the best part. It takes no effort, is so simple yet extremely effective.

You can concentrate much better on the next call. Feel accomplished and have you laughing at how ridiculously simple your calm cue is to help you find your calm and conquer your chaos.

Anxiety and Stress, Free to me be

Get out of your head – Stress, Anxiety and Chaos

Get out of your Head – Stress, Anxiety and Chaos

The famous scientist Albert Einstein, knew a thing or two and spent his lifetime trying to understand the workings of the world. He explored science, physics, astronomy and spirituality and left school at an early age because he didn’t fit into the student mold as set out by his teachers.

He said, The basic laws of the universe are simple, but because our senses are limited, we can’t grasp them. There is a pattern in creation.

There is an order to the chaos. We only see a tree but there is more to a tree including its roots and the oxygen it generates. Flowers a beautiful and
smell sweet and they are there for the bees to pollinate other plants.

Albert said, Out of clutter, find simplicity, from discord, find harmony.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunities.

Many times Einstein would make a quote that was related to his work, but it also could be applied to other areas of life in general.

He also said, No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

So try something new.

Look at a situation from a different angle.

Walk away and sleep on the solution instead of simply doing the same thing expecting a different result.

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.

This final quote is one of my favourites as I am constantly learning, reading and trying to figure out what my life purpose is and how I can be of service
and I see little miracle every day.

There are only two ways to live your life.

One is as though nothing is a miracle.

The other is as though everything is a miracle.

So try something new now and discover that there is calm to be found in any chaos. There is order to chaos and you can stop the chaos or at least manage yourself in the midst of chaos.

Chaos to Calm, Free to me be

Breathe To Get Calm

Breathing is something that we do naturally and yet so many of us are doing it wrong. Consciously breathing is certainly NOT a high priority on busy people’s
radar. You might not even be aware of your breathe until you are exercising.

I have even read that it is a new age practice. Correct me if I am wrong but breathing is critical to every human being and should be done not just daily
but all the time.

There are circular breathing techniques, counting while you breathe in and holding your breath before exhaling, sleep techniques, the win hof method, transformation
breathing, holotropic breathwork and the list goes on. The apple watch has a circular breathing graphic. Calm app has a breathing button too.

There are so many benefits to discovering how breathing properly can help you. My technique is not to be underestimated as just simply breathing. It is
a technique I have spent 10 years figuring out and is a combination of a number of modalities combined to make it your first aid technique to use when
you are stress, anxious or depressed.

My technique might seem ridiculously easy yet all I have done is made it sound so simple that you will want to do it a few times a day because it feels
so good and the benefits can be felt immediately and long term.

A google search gave me this result “Breathwork is a general term used to describe any type of therapy that utilizes breathing exercises to improve mental, physical, and spiritual health”

The benefits of doing breathing exercises are:

  • Lower heart rate
  • Lowers high blood pressure
  • Relieves stress
  • Reduces tension
  • Increased your oxygen supply
  • Relaxing and calming
  • Self healing
  • Emotional stability
  • Brakes the chaos of your thoughts by giving your brain something to focus on other than your worries

I am not claiming any of these health benefits, my intention is to share what works for me and I encourage you to do your own research and discovery.

This is my calm technique:

  • Stop – Stop thinking
  • Breath – Take one deep breathe
  • Smile – Smile one positive thought

To even try and stop thinking is nearly impossible so I shift my focus to my diaphragm.

Place your right hand at the bottom of your left ribs. This anchors your intent to breathe deeply. Your hand anchors positive beliefs.

Breathe in deeply and fill your lungs and stomach. Slow deep breaths.

When you breathe consciously you mind stops racing and overthinking as you are giving it a task to do.

Check out this video where I demonstrate how to use my #calmcue First Aid breathing technique