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Conquering your chaos by building your resilience

Conquering your chaos by building your resilience

 

Life is full of changes and challenges and the more resilient you are determines your ability to bounce back and manage coping with the ups and downs of
life. Being stretched allows you to grow and be more accepting of change.


Resilience or grit helps us deal with stressful situations, crisis, trauma,
death and adversity. It is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity. This is important because it is how you behave and act during the
crisis and chaos as well as how you view the event after is what matters.

Have you felt stretched and unable to cope under pressure? We all face challenges daily and our ability to get through them strengthens you or brings you
to your knees.

A simple explanation of resilience means bouncing back after an adversity.
Through dealing with adversity, problems and setbacks it develops your resilience and ability to cope with certain situations.

The dictionary states that resilience is a way of describing the quality of something that goes back to it’s original form after it has been bent or stretched.

Once you have learnt something you can’t unlearn it. After you have been through a traumatic experience you are changed and can’t undo the experience.
Once a rubber band is stretch it never goes back to its original form, it is stretched and expanded.

Life is full of changes and challenges and the more resilient you are determines your ability to bounce back and manage coping with the ups and downs of
life. Being stretched allows you to grow and be more accepting
of change.

Resilience helps us deal with stressful situations, crisis, trauma, death and adversity. It is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity. This
is important because it is how you behave and act during the crisis and chaos as well as how you view the event after is what matters.

Have you felt stretched and unable to cope under pressure? We all face challenges daily and our ability to get through them strengthens you or brings you
to your knees?

What can seem like mild stress one day can easily escalate when situations are compounded and stacked one on top of each other. Also what might seem like
mild pressure to someone can seem extreme to another person.

Resilience is about maintaining flexibility and balance in your life as you deal
with the chaos. Find your calm, conquer your chaos.

Check out the links to discover how to master your resilience and put an end to stress and reduce your anxiety.

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Life is too serious to take too seriously

Life is too serious to take too seriously

 

This could be one of the most serious messages you get but have fun with it and don’t take it too seriously.


Confused yet?

If you are like me, I take everything too seriously and found out the hard way that I was not perfect, I could have everything but not all at once, I made
mistakes, I am a mother but also learning on the job without a job description.

My kids didn’t come with an instruction manual either. Or maybe I left that at the hospital in all the chaos of dealing with a new born, feeding, hormones,
nappy changing and to top it off the haze and confusion due to lack of sleep.

My kids are now teenagers and some days I think I have everything under control yet chaos enters my world and I realise that the only control I have is
how I react and if I want the situation to be different I have to change the way i view the situation. The only influence I have is me, my thoughts
and most important are my feelings.

How I feel greatly effects how I react or respond.

Do I curl up in the corner in the fatal position blubbering? Or look at the situation for what it is and not what I ‘think’ it is?

There is so much more I want to share with you. Check out the link below to find your calm and discover the world of possibilities so that you can have
the cake, enjoy it, laugh about it and not take life or yourself too seriously.

This is fun, it will make you smile and you will laugh at how ridiculously simple yet effective my first aid calm technique.

Check out the link and have a super awesome day

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How to build your resilience

How to build your resilience

This video is a starting point so that you can discover How to build your resilience.

Resilience or grit is your determination to keep going. Everyday challenges add up and they become heavy burdens. The baggage gets heavier and more awkward
to carry.

If you are like I was I just could not magically ‘let it go – stop thinking – relax’ I kept searching answers and discovered this ridiculously simple technique to help guide you. You have everything skill you need inside you already, you just have to find
it.

You have probably mastered most pieces of life’s puzzle and yet some elude you – money, partner, job security, kids, mortgage, or enough superannuation,
or what ever is missing.

Self-help is not selfish, it’s a gift. You can self calm or you can self harm.

It’s a gift to become calmer. Organised yet flexible. Laugh more. Find the pieces of your puzzle. You show your kids by example and not by words. Do you
ask ‘do I look fat in this’, say things likes like a moment on the lips is a lifetime on the hips. I am terrible at saving money. I am not worthy yet
I want someone to love me.

Accept what you can’t change and change what you can.

On any flight you are told to that when the oxygen mask drops from the ceiling to help yourself before helping others. Only you can help yourself and be
the change you want.

Join me to help you find your calm, conquer your chaos and discover acceptance. How to really and truly be in the present. Find out what makes you happier,
more fulfilled and with calmness you can conquer your chaos.

Resilience is something you learn and if you practice it day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute and breathe by breathe you will become calmer. You
have the ability within you to build resilience and you have come to the right place, so welcome and follow the links to discover your resilience.

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How to Control your Stress and Anxiety

How to Control your Stress and Anxiety

Stress and anxiety creep up and grab you by the throat, it slowly sucks the air out of your life giving lungs. It feels like all the energy in your body
is slowly draining and there is nothing you can do. The spiral of negative thoughts swirl around in your mind until it consumes even the slightest
trace of any positivity you had.

It is so sneaky that it seems like smoke slowly but surely filling your bedroom at night. It is like being in a lovely peaceful dream that turns into a
horrible nightmare. You have no control over it. The life sucking force has taken its grip of you without your permission.

There are signs along the way that you are suffocating and yet your brain processes this a normal. Everyone else is stressed out and seem to cope so I
have to also just keep going, day after day, paycheck after paycheck and I can rest when I get old.

There are so many demands to deal with daily and so little time. Best I get even busier and keep suffering because that is all I seem able to do.


 

Slowly but surely the stress keeps piling up, its unrelenting. It feels like a ten tonne weight has been placed on your chest and very slowly, one
situation throws you into the next and the weight gets heavier and heavier. Your life force is being taken from you moment by moment and because
it is such a slow gradual process you hardly notice. Well done stress and anxiety, your claws have a firm grip on me, without my permission, and
you are clawing your way deeper and deeper into my skin.

I keep going, I keep the motion of a life going, I keep plodding on from one chaotic moment to the next.

Anxiety invited itself to the stress party and like a guest that over stays its welcome, was so subtle, so gentle at first, now just won’t leave and
causes mischief to stir my emotions and make my heart race.

Why me, this is so unfair, I am just doing what everyone else is to survive the daily grind.

The fog of overwhelm and confusion is taking over your body one cell at a time. First your brain kicks into survival mode and you fear an attack. The
attacks keep coming unrelenting and unforgiving, it is a constant battering that never goes away. So little by little negativity thoughts replace
positive ones. One experience after another and how can you deal with it when life is throwing you all these curve balls.

Stress and anxiety take over your eyes and all you can see is the treadmill you are on, must keep going and going and going. All you can see now is
clouded by the visions of the bad thoughts in your head.

You are blinded by the only options that you can see right in front of you, the ones that smack you in the face and tell you that this is normal and
everyone else is stressed. This is normal with all the demands of work and being available 24/7, parenting gets tougher as the kids get older,
you are in survival mode and don’t even know it.

You are bombarded with the daily onslaught of social media. Feelings of jealously and fear grip and warp your sense of perspective. The insane addition
of constantly checking your accounts and what your ‘friends’ are up to causes your heart to race and your breathing to be shallow.

Chronic overthinking is like being on a rollercoaster, oh the ups and down and thrills have turned into a horror movie. You are so snuggly buckled
into the ride that you can’t find the stop button and the ride is on a continuous endless loop and you are the prisoner in your own hell.

You smile and put on a happy face because you are coping, just, but inside you wonder how you are going to get through the day.

Anxiety starts as a little murmur in your chest, the occasional skipping of a beat is fine to ignore because you are too busy to even notice. Your
heart races out of control and the way your body copes is to hold its breath and make your breathing even shallower.

You have no options, you are consumed with stress and anxiety and the worst part is that this is just the beginning of the end and yet you are still
so unaware what a toll this is taking on your mind, body and spirit.

You are now so stuck and this all happened so slowly and kept attacking you and all you can do is keep going doing what you have always been doing.
It’s like the battery on your phone slowly losing its charge. Dropping one percent at a time until you get a warning that you need to charge it,
but if you ignore the message they increase their intensity until its critical.

Your body was trying to warn you. It was sending you signals and messages but you were too busy to notice. Like your car, there are only so many buttons,
lights and warning beeps, if you keep ignoring the messages it will stop and probably at the worst most inconvenient time.

This was my life until one day something happened ….

I was blissfully unaware of how consumed my life was with all this pressure. As a working parent providing for my family left no time for me. It would
have been selfish to spend time or money on myself. I ‘thought’ I was fine, but little did I know that I was leading down a very dark path and
didn’t realise it.

My world came crashing down the moment I slammed the boot of my car into my temple. I hit my head so hard that the pain took me straight to the ground
and blood poured down my face. It took all the energy and strength I had left to get my very young kids inside the house before I passed out of
the couch.

I had not even realised that I was in trouble until that very moment. This was my wake up call. It took days before I even vaguely felt slightly better.

It took a smash on my head for me to figure out that I needed help. I realised after years of researching to work out the best solution. I read books,
attended seminars paid for courses. I have been where you are and it’s time to stop the suffering.

When is NOW the right time for you to learn from my mistakes?

How many times do you have to hit rock bottom?

What warning signs are you ignoring?

Stop searching for answers – here is the solution you need.

I will show you a very simple technique that stops my chaos of stress and anxiety, calms
my mind and body all in one second. Yes ONE second. You need this. The trick to life is to just keep breathing through the chaos.

The solution you are searching for is just a breath away.

It’s funny, but you never really think much about breathing. Until it’s all you ever think about

Conscious breathing heightens awareness and deepens relaxation

Breathing is not the same as being alive. A great number of people breathe but never live.

Start living today and discover the most powerful calming relief you can give yourself. You will feel more in control. Your will rediscover your power
by learning why and how to breathe properly.

How do I know? Well, I spend the first 20 years of my life being severely asthmatic, being in oxygen tents in hospital and constantly carrying my inhaler.
My parent we not sure I would live long enough to even start school!

So I know what it feels like to suffocate and fight for every life giving breathe. Just breathing can be such a luxury at times. Breathing, according
to me, corresponds to taking charge of one’s own life.

I have designed the most amazing course where you will learn how to Control your Stress
and Anxiety Levels in 1-Second. Lets break down your stress and reduce your anxiety where I hold your hand day after day, moment by moment and
breath by breath. Its time to dissolve stress and anxiety.

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Get out of your head – Stress, Anxiety and Chaos

Get out of your Head – Stress, Anxiety and Chaos

 

The famous scientist Albert Einstein, knew a thing or two and spent his lifetime trying to understand the workings of the world. He explored science, physics,
astronomy and spirituality and left school at an early age because he didn’t fit into the student mould as set out by his teachers.

He said, The basic laws of the universe are simple, but because our senses are limited, we can’t grasp them. There is a pattern in creation.

There is an order to the chaos. We only see a tree but there is more to a tree including its roots and the oxygen it generates. Flowers a beautiful and
smell sweet and they are there for the bees to pollinate other plants.

Albert said, Out of clutter, find simplicity, from discord, find harmony.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunities.

Many times Einstein would make a quote that was related to his work, but it also could be applied to other areas of life in general.

He also said, No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

So try something new.

Look at a situation from a different angle.

Walk away and sleep on the solution instead of simply doing the same thing expecting a different result.

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.

This final quote is one of my favourites as I am constantly learning, reading and trying to figure out what my life purpose is and how I can be of service
and I see little miracle every day.

There are only two ways to live your life.

One is as though nothing is a miracle.

The other is as though everything is a miracle.

So try something new now and discover that there is calm to be found in any chaos. There is order to chaos and you can stop the chaos or at least manage yourself in the midst of chaos.

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Celebrate Small Successes

Celebrate Small Successes

 

On a typical day I sat down to make a few calls, a few I had been putting off because I knew it would take a few minutes to either chat or navigate around
the menu, push 1 for this option, 2 for this option etc. The first call was to the dentist to book a clean, we confirmed a date and time and I wrote
this down.

I don’t know about you but I forget if I don’t write it down then I stress about trying to remember it. I write everything down as it enforces it in my
brain. Especially goals, if you write them down you are more likely to achieve them as you set your intentions.

Before I had even hung up I moved straight to my next item on my ‘to do’ list. Call medical insurance because they denied a claim for my daughter which
I knew I was entitled to.

It had been a long process which I won’t bore you with but let’s just say, 3 dental opinions, general anaesthetic procedure, braces, poor kid with sore
teeth for two weeks, bills, anaesthetist, hospital fees, medicare and this was the final piece at the end of all this drama.

After entering all my details and navigating through the phone automation, I was finally chatting to a real person and once I had explained everything
this was his actual response “Sorry but we only looked at the first line of the form and that item was not claimable so we stopped, denied your whole
claim, and didn’t look at the next item.” Sincere apology, the refund will be in your account tomorrow.

As he was saying this I had mentally ticked this off my ‘to do’ list and was already thinking of my next call.

Wait.

Stop.

Congratulate myself on small successes. This is my ridiculously simple technique.

Stop thinking. Take one deep breathe. Smile. That is it and it only takes seconds. Not minutes or hours.

So in between calls I celebrated. Dentist booked. Medical claim finally complete and a refund, happy dance.

Stop. Breathe. Smile.

Join me to find out how this can mathematically and scientifically be explained with the chaos theory. One small change right now, radically changes the
outcome. The effect might appear random and insignificant and yet it creates order out of chaos.

Its ridiculously simple and that’s the best part. It takes no effort, is so simple yet extremely effective.

You can concentrate much better on the next call. Feel accomplished and have you laughing at how ridiculously simple your calm cue is to help you find
your calm and conquer your chaos. Check out this link.

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Put an End to Your Stress and Reduce Anxiety

Put an End to Your Stress and Reduce Anxiety

I am super excited to spend a few minutes with you today, where you will discover that there are simple ways to put an end to your stress and reduce anxiety. Calm yourself in ANY situation, and create habits to conquer your chaos EASILY!

  • Do you feel like your stress is piling up and up and you are out of control? 
  • Is your anxiety through the roof?
  • Are you struggling everyday and feel anxious to the point of throwing up, sweaty palms, shaky and sick of not being in control of your emotions?
  • Is your head foggy so that you can’t think clearly?
  • Racing thoughts and a rapid heartbeat grip you daily making it hard to even breathe?

Congratulations this is normal and your mind is working as it should – if you were a cave person and in a genuine danger.


Most people want to feel like that they have control of their lives but:

  • when you don’t know how to manage your triggers,
  • take on board other people’s problems, and
  • listen to their opinions,
  • then we end up sleep deprived, exhausted, lack purpose and direction and burnt out 

Enough is enough and there are easy, simply solutions that you can use straight away.  

We are all time poor these days. Connected to devices and work and feel the constant need to reply straight away to texts and emails. Checking social media
all the time and comparing yourself to what your friends are posting. All this pressure leads to you being disconnected from yourself and stuck in
the endless noise of your thoughts.

You see, chaos will always find you and if you are like millions of people around the world then you don’t even know how to relax or what calm is. Calm
is not something you buy, or are prescribed, but you can learn how to discover calm within yourself. One day at a time, one moment at a time, one breath at a time.

You see, the only person you can empower is yourself. You have the ability to remain calm in any situation. To self soothe. And it is very self empowering.
You can rely on yourself and learn to trust your instincts, when you have the tools and desire to get unstuck, unstressed and unanxious.

When is NOW the right time for you to finally stop feeling awful and take your control back?

I can show you that everything you need is already inside and around you. You have the power and ability. I will hold your hand, literally speaking for
the next 30 days and you will learn now to stop finding chaos and conquer yourself, to find calm in any situation.

You will have a clearer mind. Move through chaos easier and become self empowered to self administer the calm you need for yourself and others around you.

STOP looking outside. There is immense power is knowing who you are and how to self calm.
Personally this has allowed me to conquer my insomnia, deal with my past stored stress and eliminate anxiety, quickly and calmly. It works everytime.

You can snap out of your head and reconnect with your life.

  • This is NOT hours of webinars or podcasts
  • NOT a free course that is designed just to sell you a really expensive product and grab your email address
  • NOT just waffle to grab your attention and waste your valuable time
  • NOT a blast of too much information, hours of videos and lengthy text to read, that lets face it, is just so overwhelming and complicated!
  • NOT journalling, saying affirmations and “thinking” your way calm 

In this course, you will get

  • One email a day for, 30 days
  • Daily inspiration to keep you motivated and inspired
  • Numerous calming techniques
  • Just enough information to take in and action daily.

There is also tunz more information if you want to discover and learn more, there is also an 

  • eBook
  • Bonus Checklist
  • Bonus Mind map and
  • Videos by yours truly

If you’ve been wanting to improve your lifestyle for years, then do not wait any further. NOW is the time. You can do this. This course is designed for you.

Sign up right now and discover a simple
way to put an end to your stress and reduce anxiety. Calm yourself in ANY situation, and create habits to conquer your chaos EASILY! You will get your
first email straight away so that you can start right away.

Take action today or tomorrow you will get the same results you have been getting. Now is the time to change your life for the better. Follow the links,
check it out and sign up to find your calm and conquer your chaos. Have
a super awesome day. 

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LOA Why You Need to Let It Go

 

LOA Why You Need to Let It Go

This week I was asked a great question and I got inspired to share my view on the LOA. Keep focusing on your desire and when to let it go.

Question:

I just saw ‘Law of attraction’ on the side bar of your blog page and I’m yet to read your posts about it. I have been dying to ask somebody a question
regarding LOA without sounding delusional to the sceptics. Just wondering your thoughts on this one because I’m beyond confused with all the information
I have read. Everyone says to focus on your desire with intense feeling until you get it, but others say ask, believe- LET GO, and then receive. I
have tried the letting go part and it does work but which is it supposed to be? Any ideas?

Answer:

That is actually a great question and one I tried and tried to feel and get my head around. My thoughts are:

The LOA is about focusing on what you want and not what you don’t have.

When you focus on what you want you create a desire to have it.

You need to focus on the feeling of already having what you desire which is where the ‘let it go’ comes in because otherwise you create doubt. What I mean
is that when you only focus on what you want you probably attach feelings to it from a place of not having it. And then when your desire doesn’t show
up you keep focusing on ‘why me, what is wrong, the LOA doesn’t work, every time I ask for something it doesn’t show up’ and the doubt intensifies.

When you know for sure that you want the desire, you need the desire, it will show up, only then will you have no doubts, then the desire will show up.

  • Ask.
  • Believe you already have it.
  • Each day feel the feeling of already having it.
  • Let it go so your doubt can’t creep in.
  • Receive, be open to the opportunity for it to show up.

Life is all about the journey to get your desire and not the destination. When you only focus on the end result you miss the present moment and the energy
to create in the NOW.

Let go of the end result and enjoy the opportunities that are around you when you are aware and open. This helps to cement your desire and make you really
want it or tweak your desire.

Check out my other blogs about the Law of Attraction

 

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How to Reduce Stress Naturally

 

Chaos to calm is a journey

 


 

You need the journey so that you enjoy the destination.

When a child is little you explain complex life situations in a simple form and expand it as they grow.

Your #calmcue sign is a drop in a small stream. It will flow to a bigger river. There will be twists and turns along the way. You can enjoy the ride or
keep fighting up stream. I found my little stream lead to a river which then lead to an amazing ocean.

The ocean is where I have learnt to surf the waves and also enjoy the calm beaches. I am still a drop, yet I see the bigger picture and the view from here
is amazing. If you also want to find your ocean then I can help you. The ocean has an amazing ability to calm itself and so can you.

The drop in the stream is your baseline, your chaos, your struggles right now

The river is the journey and where you grow to allow and accept change

The ocean is the calm and where the real fun is

You are where you are, your experiences good or bad have got you here. This is your baseline and where you start the journey to find your calm.

This is the journey I took from chaos to calm:

  • Found my baseline
  • Increased awareness
  • Acknowledged my journey so far and my potential
  • Discovered my external chaos
  • Found my control was internal
  • Realised that every challenge make me stronger
  • I let go of what was not serving me
  • Daily see my #calmcue sign
  • Use my first aid #calmcue to connect to myself, self-administered, self-control, self-empowering.

You don’t need to figure stuff out, you clear the mind and the body calms so you can move through the situation easier. This doesn’t stop the chaos, it
gives you the self-knowledge to find your calm in an instant.

There are 86,400 seconds in a day. Surely you can afford to spend 3 seconds a day doing my calm technique!

Here are some stories I  have written, listed in ordered to help you on your journey from chaos to calm:

 


 

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How do I breathe to get Calm

How do I breathe to get Calm

Breathing is something that we do naturally and yet so many of us are doing it wrong. Consciously breathing is certainly NOT a high priority on busy people’s
radar. You might not even be aware of your breathe until you are exercising.

I have even read that it is a new age practice. Correct me if I am wrong but breathing is critical to every human being and should be done not just daily
but all the time.

There are circular breathing techniques, counting while you breathe in and holding your breath before exhaling, sleep techniques, the win hof method, transformation
breathing, holotropic breathwork and the list goes on. The apple watch has a circular breathing graphic. Calm app has a breathing button too.

There are so many benefits to discovering how breathing properly can help you. My technique is not to be underestimated as just simply breathing. It is
a technique I have spent 10 years figuring out and is a combination of a number of modalities combined to make it your first aid technique to use when
you are stress, anxious or depressed.

My technique might seem ridiculously easy yet all I have done is made it sound so simple that you will want to do it a few times a day because it feels
so good and the benefits can be felt immediately and long term.

A google search gave me this result “Breathwork is a general term used to describe any type of therapy that utilizes breathing exercises to improve mental,
physical, and spiritual health”

The benefits of doing breathing exercises are:

  • Lower heart rate
  • Lowers high blood pressure
  • Relieves stress
  • Reduces tension
  • Increased your oxygen supply
  • Relaxing and calming
  • Self healing
  • Emotional stability
  • Brakes the chaos of your thoughts by giving your brain something to focus on other than your worries

I am not claiming any of these health benefits, my intention is to share what works for me and I encourage you to do your own research and discovery.

This is my calm technique:

  • Stop – Stop thinking
  • Breath – Take one deep breathe
  • Smile – Smile one positive thought

 

To even try and stop thinking is nearly impossible so I shift my focus to my diaphragm.

Place your right hand at the bottom of your left ribs. This anchors your intent to breathe deeply. Your hand anchors positive beliefs.

Breathe in deeply and fill your lungs and stomach. Slow deep breaths.

When you breathe consciously you mind stops racing and overthinking as you are giving it a task to do.

Check out this video where I demonstrate how to use my #calmcue First Aid breathing technique