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Do coincidences really exist? Do they?

 

Do coincidences really exist? Do they?

I don’t think anything is random. Sometimes you have to look back at all the events leading up to the coincidence and realise that everything happened
for a reason.

You made choices along the way to get where you were for the coincidence to show up.

You can analyse it till the cows come home but sometimes you just have to go with the flow and jump at every opportunity that is in front of you.

You might not know where it will take you but if it feels right then jump. Of course, if it feels wrong then that is your warning system and you should
listen.

I will share with you a string of events that lead me to having my first article published in a magazine.

It was a normal weekend towards the end of last year and I was flicking through a local magazine, you know the general, what happening around town magazine
that gets thrown on your driveway. I was sitting in bed having a coffee and wondering what to do and also relishing the fact that there was nothing
scheduled, no where to be, no sporting event to run the kids to etc. You know the joys of being a parent and some weekends it’s unrelenting.

I saw an ad for the mind, body, spirit festival and it happened to be on today. My husband said I should go. You see I wasn’t feeling in a happy place
so it was probably a message of ‘go and enjoy yourself’ mixed with ‘I know you will be happier when you get back after a few hours away’.

The decision was made in the spur of the moment and to be honest I probably could not race out the house quick enough for some ‘me’ time. The festival
was only a few minutes away which was also an added bonus.

Within 5 minutes of arriving there was a guided meditation starting. My first reaction was that I wanted to jump in and see the festival, all the stalls
and soak up the atmosphere.

There was something about the way the lady at the front desk told me about the meditation and I made the decision that it was probably best for me to relax,
find some calm and clear my thoughts. Half an hour later my energy had completely changed and I was not only calm but probably the calmest I had been
in weeks.

I wandered around the brightly coloured stall, sampled the wonderful food, smelt the incense and plucked up the courage to talk about my second book Free
to be me that I was days away from finished.

At one of the stalls I met Sharon Rowland, the editor of the Oddities e-Club Magazine. I mentioned my book Free to be me and she offered to review it.
I was over the moon. It still took me a further couple of months before the book was ready for release but I remembered to send it to Sharon.

Little did I know that I would be invited to write an article for the magazine and contribute more stories.

I am pleased to share with you the latest edition for you to check out https://www.magloft.com/app/oddities and their website www.odditieseclub.com

So had I not read the local magazine, or mentioned the festival, or been pushed (in a loving way) to go, or talked to Sharon, then this would never have
happened. So you decide, do coincidences really exist or was this just a string of events that lead me to the right place at the right time? 

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Finding Your Inner Calm With Art

Finding Your Inner Calm With Art 

I wanted to share this beautiful guest post from Sarah at A Cat Like Curiosity and how she uses her Art to find balance and calm in her life and how you can tap into your own creativity to find Calm and Conquer your own chaos.
I also had the wonderful opportunity to guest blog on her site and here is my article, check it out.

I am a real devotee of calm. I try to invite as much of it as I can into my life. I am absolutely the opposite of a drama queen!

Sometimes though, our little inner sanctum of calm is disturbed. Maybe our friends or family members need help with a difficult situation. Maybe we’re
invited out to a social event that turns a little too raucous or developes into arguments and fights.

It’s not always possible to avoid drama altogether.

But we can choose how we respond to drama in our lives.

I choose to keep calm and craft on!

Here are my favourite things to do when things seem out of balance and I’m craving calm:

1. Art journalling
 
I have a small journal I use for daily doodles and some larger ones I use to create and experiement with different mixed media techniques. I love working
in these as they are total play spaces. They are a chance for me to let my inner child out to play. I always feel calmer after I’ve let myself create.
 
2. Collaging on canvas
 
If I am feeling totally stuck, often a bit of collaging helps get me unstuck. The simple act of cutting and sticking is meditative in it’s own way. It’s
a simple and repetitive task that helps you unwind. The papers you collage down also give you all sorts of ideas for paint colours and you suddenly
find you’re off creating a new canvas without a care in the world!
 
3. Playing around with paint
 
I love to just splash paint around! Experimenting with different colour combinations, different ways of making marks on the canvas and letting myself be
just completely free is great fun! Even if I cover it all up at the end I know I will have learned something and I will have had pure fun in doing
so.

The simple act of taking time out for yourself is the key really. By sitting down in your painting space you are affirming to your soul self that you are
important enough to warrant this time, this attention. And this is powerful.

If you’d like some help with getting started creatively feel free to check out my website acatlikecuriosity.com

I have a gorgeous (and free!) Curious Library that is full of mini ECourses, EBooks and Creative Challenges galore! I also have lots of arty ECourses and
my Curiously Gorgeous Sisterhood for those of you who want to create calm with creativity regularly.

Have a wonderful day lovelies!

Sarah Leonard
Auric Artist and Creativity Coach
 

 

I hope you enjoyed this blog and please email me directly to guest blog enquiries xo

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Tips to Calm Down and De-Stress with Calming Music

Tips to Calm Down and De-Stress with Calming Music

I was inspired to write this based on my experience yesterday. After yet another terrible night’s sleep I found myself wandering round in a daze and my
head was spinning with confusion. Most of the time I sleep ok now that I have a few strategies in place and incase you haven’t read it here is my blog
on how I cured my insomnia.

I used to sleep well until a few years ago I suffered under a huge amount of stress and despite the stress being over it still plagues me. It has taken
me years to reflect on why, how and what I am doing to self-sabotage myself with my sleep patterns.

My main cause is over thinking which I am sure most of you can relate to. I will wake in the early hours and start thinking of an unresolved issue, awkward
conversation or what I have to do today. It’s just plain exhausting and after a few nights of restless sleep it really catches up on me and I am beyond
exhausted.

One strategy that works for me is chanting. There are so many sayings to chant that I definitely don’t want to overwhelm you but share some of my favourites.
Some of these will resonate with you right away and others will probably send your brain into more chaos. So songs you like to listen to over and over
again and some you only like when you are in a certain mental state.

For example calming music is of course awesome for calming you, however, when you are inspired and in flow and have a deadline to meet you will probably
want very upbeat lively music. Of course you would not listen to loud beating wake up music just before you go to sleep. The same is true first thing
in the morning, the last music you would pick would be sad slow sleepy music when you are getting ready for work because it would probably make you
want to jump right back into bed and not face the day.

My solution yesterday to my foggy brain was to sit quietly and ‘try’ and meditate. I say try because I have learnt to recognise that when I am in this state it is almost impossible to stop thinking and
actually get out of my head. My to-do-list seems to grow 10 fold when I am in the chaos state and the more I try and relax the more I want to add to
my list. So my meditation went something like this:

  • Find a quiet warm spot where I was not going to be disturbed for half
    an hour.
  • Set an alarm for the desired time and that allows my brain to relax a little knowing that I am giving myself this precious time and also that I will
    still have plenty of time to get up and keep going about my day.
  • Have a pen and paper handy and right in front of me. When I have an idea or remember more to add to my to-do-list I can scribble it down and this then
    allows me to know I won’t forget it and therefore I can put it out of my mind for now.
  • Problems keep arising when I am in this state and I don’t get cross with myself which causes more stress and confusion. I allow the thoughts to rise,
    write it down and then send the thought floating away in a pink balloon.
  • Listen to chanting music.

The biggest tip and trick I really want to share with you is how I calm my monkey mind down with chanting.

If you are an A-type personality like me then just doing one task at a time if not enough. I just can’t do it. Trying to meditate and only focus on my
breathing gives my mind plenty of opportunity to get bored and wander off back onto the track of all my chaos. Just telling myself to stop thinking
is impossible!

Chanting gives my mind something to do. Breathing deeply gives my body something to do. When I sync my chants to my breathing and another key point I want
to share is that I breathe into my heart. This is one of the most powerful tips you can do. Try it… When you brain waves and heart energy is
connected you will find an inner calm. The rhythm is like slow dancing to your favourite song, it is effortless to slowly sway in time to the beat
of the music and it is very relaxing and calming.

There are times I really love guided meditations and yet as I said before sometimes it’s the wrong time of the day and I get frustrated listening and it
is not resonating with me. Other times I only want music with no words at all and other times white noise and nature soothe me.

In summary

Now that I am familiar with these chants I will repeat one phrase over and over in the early hours of the morning and now I go back to sleep within minutes.
Without these chants I would lie awake for hours as I just could not turn my brain off. I don’t get upset with myself for waking, I just breathe and
chant.

  • Try all different ways to relax before you go to bed
  • Vary the music and chants you listen to depending on your mood and the time of the day
  • Learn to listen to your body and sync your brain and heart especially at 4am and allow yourself to relax
  • BREATHE deeply into your heart and sync your breathing to your heart beat
  • Chant and keep the monkey mind just busy enough and this stops the endless flow of chronic overthinking 

 

To get you started here is a list of my favourite chanting music.

My Pinterest board: Chanting Om Music

6 hours – Tibetan bowls – here is the you tube
link

3 hours – Nam Myoho Renge Kyo – here is the you tube link

2 hours – 528 Hz Heart Chakra Balance and Emotional Stability– here is the
you tube link

1 hour – Om Kleem – here is the you tube link

30 mins – Om mani padme hum – here is the you tube link

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12 Ways to Tap Into Your Own Creativity

 

12 Ways to Tap Into Your Own Creativity 

 

Creativity is the ability to bring new ideas into existence and allows us to ignite the passion within us to solve problems and find solutions to issues
we have to deal with in our day to day lives.

While it seems like some people have all of the creative juices inside of them and they are continually bursting with amazing ideas and different concepts
and solutions it is something that you too can tap into for your own benefit.

Everyone is creative in their own unique way.

Everyone has a talent that they enjoy.

Everyone can tap into their right brain.

The right side of the brain is responsible for, the left side of the body’s functions including Musical awareness, Holistic thoughts, Intuition, Art awareness,
Imagination and importantly Creativity.

The left side of the brain is responsible for, controlling the right side of the body’s function such as Logic, Language, Science, Math and Number skills,
Written functions and our reasoning.

Creativity is your intelligence having fun!

The ability to become more creative is something that we can all learn and tap into as it is just a process that we need to focus more attention on and
develop our skills and expertise over time.

The more you use your brain the more it will function allowing you to unearth creative juices you never knew you had.

Try some of these techniques below to get your creative mind working,

Get back to Nature:

Nature has a great way of connecting us to the real world (don’t take your phone) and ensures that we are in the present moment with just the sounds, sights
and smells of the great outdoors. The natural environment allows you to clear your mind and just focus on the beauty and creativity all around you.

Play some Music:

Music has the ability to create all types of feelings and emotions within us. To me that is the great thing about music. It allows you to escape for a
period of time into another world and immerse yourself in the soulful tunes of your favourite band.

Your own Quite Time:

It’s important for everyone to have time alone to think over things in your life along with allowing
you to clearly focus on what you want to do in the future. Having this time to yourself can allow you to clear your mind of your daily worries and
free up your energy to focus on your more creative ideas and projects.

Mindfulness:

Mindfulness colouring is still huge and an excellent way to calm your brain and thoughts. It really doesn’t matter what you choose and what interests you,
if you enjoy it, do it because those good feelings create more good feelings.

Swap Hands:

By using your other hand more often you will be creating new connections in your brain similar to the way your body grows muscles when you do exercise.
Try this with your mouse or even when brushing your teeth. It’s a great way to build new connections even if it feels a little strange at first.

Remove yourself from Technology:

Put it down, turn it off and walk away. Technology is great for finding information and staying connected but you still need to disconnect from all of
this technology and allow yourself to just be in the moment and absorb what is happening around you.

Do something for You:

It’s important to do things for yourself instead of continually trying to meet the needs of everyone else in your life. Sometimes the simple act of relaxing
in a hot bath, enjoying a massage or engaging in an activity that is close to your heart will allow you to get rid of all of those thoughts racing
around in your head and just allow you to focus on you and you alone.

Stop being Critical:

We can be our worse enemies when it comes to being too critical of what we do and who we are. Remove yourself from difficult situations and allow yourself
to look at the situation from a different perspective. This may just allow you to come up with some creative solutions to your critical thoughts

Live in the Now:

Living in the now and being present in the moment will create space and time allowing your creative spirit to flow with creative ideas and concepts you
may not have thought of before.

Feel your Feelings:

Think back to the last time you had a creative spark. What feelings did you have? How did they make you feel? What made you have these feelings? How did
these feelings help you in the creative process? Take note of these happy wonderful feelings and look at how you can use these in your everyday life
as well as when you are looking at being creative.

Relax, Daydream And Unwind:

The creative mind works best when it is relaxed and not processing thousands of thoughts. If you are highly worried or stressed your creativity will be
stifled by all of these stories running around in your head. The art of unwinding and daydreaming can be a difficult one to masted these days with
our busy and connected lives. Take the time to switch off and daydream letting your mind wonder without a worry or care. You may be surprised where
your thoughts and mind take you

Have fun and enjoy the Moment:

As adults we tend to play by the rules and forget to enjoy that childlike spirit that lives inside of us. Next time you are doing something you love make
sure that you clear your mind of all of your issues and just enjoy the present moment right in front of you and have fun in the process.

Creativity is like any process that we learn and practice to fit in with our daily lives. Once you learn how to tap into this creative energy within you
see how you can interact with your creative spirit.

Pop over to my Facebook page <<link>> and post your creative activity.

My bliss today is writing and drawing J

Namaste Mikayla

 

 

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My Vision Board Worked

My Vision Board Worked

I started working for an international medical company and learnt that each year they awarded a first class, all expenses paid trip to the top 12 sales
people and one other lucky recipient. To win the prize you had to smash your sales targets.

The one other recipient was someone who can complete their job above and beyond what was expected. It was voted for by peers and the directors. I decided
that it would be a dream come true if I won. I set the intention (to win this award)
and wrote the goal down on a piece of paper that I taped behind the headboard of my bed and then I moved on. I didn’t dwell on it, I didn’t get upset
that it wasn’t coming true, I just set the intent and forgot it.

I continued working the best I could for a year and a half. I enjoyed the annual overseas trips from Australia to Paris and the Netherlands to attend meetings.
I travelled around Australia, sometimes flying into a city, working for a few hours and then flying home. It was an extreme goal as there were 10,000
employees all eligible for the one prize.

One morning I woke up and checked my phone to find 10 missed calls and messages from my boss wanting to speak to me urgently. I called her back worried
that something may be wrong and we needed to ship out a medical device for a patient urgently.

Thankfully I was wrong. My manager quickly said Hi to me and then said “hang on a minute” and She hands the phone over to the President of our company
who is in a room full of our staff from all over the world. He introduces himself and explains the setting they are in and then he proceeded to tell
me that I Had Won the Award.

I couldn’t believe it.

I was so shocked.

I was happy.

I was excited.

I was honoured to have received this award from all of the staff around the world.

I was screaming (once I got off the phone).

I won the trip for my husband and I to go to the Caribbean.

I few days after I had taken the phone call and the joy of the trip and the reality of what I had just achieved had sunk in, I remembered about the goal
I had written down and showed my husband the piece of paper. I had not told him about it in case he laughed or hadn’t taken me seriously. I also wanted
to show him that when you have a dream that is huge there is nothing you can do to control the outcome you have to trust in the process that the universe
has lined this up for me.

The ‘how’ was taken care of. Yes I took action daily by not just turning up to work but going above and beyond what was expected of me. The reward was
mind blowing. It involved a 10 day trip to LA, Miami and Antigua. Cocktail parties, private boat trips, zip lining in a rain forest, jet skiing and
business class flights and five star accommodation. (Feeling very special).

We had one free night, which happened to be our wedding anniversary and we celebrated it in style with a romantic private dinner on the beach. We had a
meeting with the chef prior and he had arrange the special 3 course meal just for us. The meal included cocktails, wine and our own waiter. Best of
all, it didn’t cost us a cent.

Months prior to winning the trip I had also put a picture on our vision board. The picture was at sunset, a table at the end of a pier, candles and table
cloth to show it was a 6 star experience. A romantic dinner for two in an ideal tropical location. Presto – I was living it! Two dreams came true at
the same time.

My vision board worked – jump over to the Facebook page and let me know what’s
on your vision board and when one of your visions came true.

Love and light Mikayla

 

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Setting Goals One Step at a Time

Setting Goals One Step at a Time

Goals are defined as stating plans which go towards achieving a desired end-point. Most goals are defined within a set time period or by a deadline. The
dictionary further states that “a desire or an intention becomes a goal if, and only if, one activates an action for achieving it”.

The key words here are “if, and only if”, because that means action is required to define something as a goal. You must actually do something to achieve
it if you are going to call it a goal. So many people have watched “The Secret” and
then wished for a BMW to appear outside their home.

Unless you have a very rich relative, most of us realise that no matter how much we think about it, that elusive BMW is not going to just appear magically
outside the house. We must do something to make it happen. Once you’ve decided what your goal is, the easy part is over. Writing down something you
want to achieve— verbalising it and visualising it—is the easy part; the action required to make it happen is the difficult part. We can’t
just visualise the goal without picturing what we need to do in order to attain the end result.

Although I know it’s part of my life’s purpose, this book seemed such a mammoth undertaking with my responsibility for two children under six and my everyday
chores. And yet once I broke it down and wrote out my plan, slowly but surely it came together. I told my husband, “If I can write one page a day,
then by the end of the year I will have 365 pages”. I then asked, “What if I write two pages a day?” His response was, “Then you will have over 700
pages”, whereas I happily realised I could get it written in half the time. Either way, bit by bit I could actually get this book written, one or two
pages per day.


I have had this book idea for a few years now and the people I have shared it with have loved the idea. I have gone from being a fulltime mum with two
toddlers to working fulltime, and I have always had to squeeze in time to write this book. I exercise at 6.00am most mornings.

At work, sometimes I have to get in early to talk to associates in the US and stay late to communicate with those in Europe. At home, I am a mother of
two, with all the work that entails. As a wife, I do the finances for my family and manage our investment portfolio. I am no hero and have a wonderful
husband, but I am busy and yet still find time to focus daily on my long-term goals. I know that by focusing I am happier.

I don’t want to work fulltime for a large international company. I have earned more per year in real estate than I do from my annual salary, but as I write
this I am eternally grateful for my current job since it is the only reason the bank will lend us more money. Doing my job does not make me as happy
as doing other things, but I am grateful for it as it helps me achieve my long-term goal of getting us our own home.



If you’ve ever attended a motivational seminar, chances are you have seen the presenter take a $50 bill from their pocket and ask, “What would you do to
get this?” Many people shout out their answers, but the one who gets it is the person who stands up from their chair, goes onstage, grabs it, and keeps
it. The point is that it’s available to anyone prepared to get up and take action. 

  • Do you feel lost and confused?
  • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
  • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
  • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
  • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
  • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
  • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
  • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
  • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

  • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
  • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
  • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the innate intelligence of the natural world. In life we will
    all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however, for each individual and for every different journey there
    is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed to support us to create and live the life we want.
  • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise the
    gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

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Finding Your Happiness

Finding Your Happiness

Some people go to extremes to find their happiness.

  • Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert documents her journey of eating in Italy, meditating in India and finding herself in Indonesia. Through the journey,
    she discovers peace within herself.
  • Living Deliberately by Harry Palmer is the result of him lying in a floatation tank for eight weeks to come up with his philosophy for the Avatar self-enlightenment
    course.
  • Eckhart Tolle quit his job and moved from England to America. He was running out of money to write his first book, won $1,000 on a lottery ticket and finished
    his first best seller.
  • These are extreme examples. Most of us have responsibilities and we like enough things about our lives not to chuck it all in, move country, contemplate
    our navel for weeks, meditate in ashrams in India, or lie in a coffin like water chamber. But you can make small changes to achieve great results.

    Take Action and Embrace Failure.

    Intentions and goals are not the same thing. You can set as many goals as you like, but if you have no intention of achieving them, they will simply not
    happen.

    The goal is the subject and the intention is the drive. An intention is stronger and more powerful than a goal. Intentions are the actions that allow you
    to reach your goals. 75% of million-dollar lotto winners are broke less than five years later. There are many theories to explain this—from not
    having great money skills to greed in sudden wealth—but I feel it’s a mindset issue.

    If, after winning, you do not feel deserving or worthy of the money, then you will sabotage yourself and let it slip through your fingers.


    There is also a difference between setting big goals and setting unrealistic ones. There is no point to setting yourself up to fail. However, there may
    be some steps along the way that don’t quite go how you intended or hoped. It is important to ensure that you don’t take this personally. Failing at
    a goal is nothing more or less than failing at the goal. It does not mean that you are a failure. It is difficult not to take it personally, and by
    all means allow yourself to shout into a pillow, throw rocks into a river, or do whatever it takes to release your frustration.

    But then, reflect on why the task—not you—was not successful. As Edison said, “I have not failed; I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”.
    Rather than viewing it as failure, take it as a learning curve: What did you learn, and what would you do differently in the future? Did your head
    and heart work in unison? Another way to avoid failure is to ensure that you set realistic timescales for your goals.


    The price of success is much lower than the sacrifices and price of failure. Leadership expert
    Dr Demartini highlighted a dozen things that wealthy people do, which poor people don’t:

    • 80% of wealthy people are focused on accomplishing a single goal. Only 12% of the poor do this.
    • 76% of wealthy people exercise aerobically four days a week. Only 23% of the poor do this.
    • 63% of wealthy people listen to audio books during their commute to work. 5% of poor people do this.
    • 81% of wealthy people maintain a to-do list. Only 19% of poor people do this.
    • 67% of wealthy people write down their goals. Only 17% of poor people do this.
    • 88% of wealthy people read for 30 minutes or more each day for education or career reasons. Only 2% of poor people do this.
    • 79% of wealthy people network five hours or more each month. Only 16% of poor people do this.
    • 67% of wealthy people watch one hour or less of TV every day. Only 23% of poor people do this.
    • 44% of wealthy people wake up three hours before work starts. Only 3% of poor people do this.
    • 74% of wealthy people teach good daily success habits to their children. Only 1% of poor people do this.
    • 84% of wealthy people believe good habits create opportunity luck. Only 4% of poor people believe this.
    • 86% of wealthy people believe in lifelong educational self-improvement. Only 5% of poor people believe this. 

    This last habit is key. The wealthiest people I know are always asking questions: How can I play a bigger game in my life? What’s the one thing I can do
    right now to take my results to a new level? What book can I read? Who can I talk to? What seminar can I attend? They’re in the business of constant,
    never-ending improvement. This continual learning curve allows them to consistently achieve breakthrough results.

    Learning Patience We have been taught at school or work that when we write down our goals we should give them a time frame to ensure they happen. If we
    don’t achieve our goals within these time frames, we get annoyed and criticise ourselves. Patience is not well respected in this fast-paced world,
    but it’s a valuable skill to acquire. Our goals are not achieved by one spasmodic burst of effort; our job is to find some joy along the way and confirmation
    that we are on the right track.


    This is where using and being aware of your can cue sign can help quell everyday doubts. I happened to be in the right place and the right time and found
    When I Relax I Feel Guilty by Tim Hansel for 50 cents at a church fete. I trusted my intuition and snapped it up. The opening page has the poem “Slow
    Me Down, Lord” by Orin L. Crain. This poem really resonates with me. Here is the best part:

    Slow Me Down, Lord Teach me the art of taking minute vacations— of slowing down to look at a flower, to chat with a friend, to pat a dog, to smile
    at a child, to read a few lines from a good book. Conversely, the band Oasis released a rockumentary film entitled, “Lord Don’t Slow Me Down”, charting
    their successes in striving for achievements. The key is to know when to stop and smell the roses and when to take action.

    • Do you feel lost and confused?
    • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
    • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
    • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
    • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
    • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
    • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
    • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
    • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

    I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
    you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

    • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
    • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
    • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the innate intelligence of the natural world. In life we will
      all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however, for each individual and for every different journey there
      is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed to support us to create and live the life we want.
    • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise the
      gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

    Photo credit www.unsplash.com


     

     

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    Snakes and Ladders

    Snakes and Ladders

    Life’s a game. When you realise that, you can see it is entirely up to you how you choose to play and what character you will be.

    Any game should be played with integrity and honesty to fully enjoy it, just try and have fun along the way and really live life. One fabulous weekend
    away staying with friends, the most amazing conversation started at about 9.30pm. We openly discussed our late teens and early twenties and what we
    would have done differently if we had had the knowledge we have now. Of course hindsight is a wonderful thing, but the light-hearted, story-telling
    conversation quickly turned into a deep discussion about how we can help and influence our own children with the knowledge we have gained.

    Our journeys through life have taught us valuable lessons and our experiences have shaped us into who we are today. No amount of teaching can prepare us
    for living through the real events. Consider the jobs we have as teenagers, for example. I won a supermarket scanning competition; I had to stand on
    the stage, greet the customer, scan the groceries, exchange money and give correct change as well as pack the groceries correctly to ensure nothing
    got squashed or broken.

    Another friend had won the Golden Spatula from McDonalds for greeting, ordering and packing the drive-through orders correctly. It was a bit of silly fun
    which was appropriate for teenagers, and we enjoyed being recognised as a great employee. It’s interesting how these seemingly trivial things shaped our views and inspired us to greater things.

    It’s impossible to measure how important these events are as we can’t go back and undo them; they are intrinsically embedded in our fabric and they help
    shape our perspectives and goals for the future. There are lessons and obstacles in life that we parents can’t teach our children, but we can try to
    prepare them to deal with the ups and downs life will throw at them. During the conversation we discussed whether life should be difficult or easy—how
    much of what we did was influenced by rebelling against our parents or by learning the hard way. We were not trying to decide who was right or wrong,
    but rather, just trying to understand how we have achieved things and how we might teach our children to aspire to be happy and successful.


    Two hours later we had still not solved the world’s problems, and I went to bed thinking
    it all over. It was very early in the morning when I realised we were all climbing different ladders, like the Snakes and Ladders game. You probably
    played it as a child; I still play it now with my kids. If life is just a game, then imagine it is one giant game of Snakes and Ladders. You roll the
    dice a few times to get going, and slowly but surely, step-by-step you start moving forward.

    Everything is fine for a few turns and then the game starts. You feel pretty good until your next roll brings you to a snake’s head and you tumble all
    the way down to its tail. You feel you have gone back several steps to where you were previously: one step forward, two steps back. It’s our ability
    to overcome these setbacks that is important. When you are on the back foot and the others in the game seem so much further ahead of you, do you give
    up or keep on rolling and hope that you catch back up to them? As it’s only a game and we were taught not to be sore losers, we continue to play.

    Then, as we move forward again, we see our competitors start to slide, allowing us to catch up again. The other half of the game is the ladders. Suddenly
    we roll the right number and land on a ladder that shoots us up higher and faster than we thought possible, right past the other players.

    Now we feel great! It’s just a game, but life is like that. If you land on a snake
    and slide down, treat it as a learning curve. See opportunities along the way and climb the ladders of life. We have all rolled the dice to the elusive
    six that landed us on a huge ladder and boy it felt great. We’ve all played with team members who seem to always be lucky, but wouldn’t it be nice
    if you were the lucky one?

    You can be responsible for your own fate based on how you feel.

    • Do you feel lost and confused?
    • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
    • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
    • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
    • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
    • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
    • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
    • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
    • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

    I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
    you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

    • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
    • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
    • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the innate intelligence of the natural world. In life we will
      all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however, for each individual and for every different journey there
      is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed to support us to create and live the life we want.
    • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise the
      gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

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    Dealing With Adversity

    Dealing With Adversity

    Rainbows are my second sign:

    I am fascinated by how they appear and I think they are the most beautiful spectacle nature has to offer. Rainbows are in fact very simple; they are just
    a case of optics. In basic terms, we don’t see the white light that goes into a prism yet we can see the rainbow at the other end.



    In a similar fashion, perspective works for us. What we put into our subconscious reflects who we are. You can look at a glass and call it half full or
    half empty; it contains the same amount of water. I want you to view yourself, life, love and nature differently. Shit happens; how are you going to
    deal with it? The author of the following tale is unknown, but it is a provoking story that will hopefully make you think about how you react when
    adversity knocks on your door.

    Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? A young woman went to her mother and complained about how hard her life was. It seemed as if as soon as one problem was solved a new one arose. She said that she did not know how she was going to
    continue and just wanted to give up: she was tired of fighting and struggling. Her mother took her to the kitchen. Her mother filled three pots with
    water: in the first she placed carrots; in the second she placed eggs; in the last she placed ground coffee beans.



    She put all three pots on the stove and let them come to a boil without saying a word. About twenty minutes later, she turned off the burners. She fished
    out the carrots and put them in a bowl. Then she carefully lifted out the eggs and placed them in another bowl. Finally she ladled the coffee into
    a third bowl. Turning to her daughter, she said, “Tell me what you see”. “Carrots, eggs, and coffee”, she replied, monosyllabically. The mother asked
    her to feel the carrots, which she did, noting they felt soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. As the daughter took off the shell,
    she observed the hard-boiled egg inside. Finally, the mother asked her to sip the coffee and the daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The
    daughter then asked, “So, what’s the point, mother?”

    Her mother explained that each item had faced the same adversity—boiling water— but each reacted differently.

    • The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but after being subjected to the boiling water, became soft and weak.
    • The egg, that had once been fragile and runny inside the shell, had now hardened as a result of the boiling water.
    • The ground coffee beans were unique, however: they thrived in the situation and worked to change the water, not themselves.

    “Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

    Think about yourself, both how you are normally and how you react to challenges:

    • Are you the carrot that seems hard, but wilts and softens in the face of adversity? You appear as a weaker version of what you once were, a limp character
      without any strength.
    • Are you the egg, which starts off fluid, but hardens as a result of the difficulties faced; perhaps a death, a breakup, a divorce, or a layoff? Your
      shell looks the same, but your spirit and heart have toughened.
    • Or are you like the coffee bean and thrive in the face of adversity? If you are like the bean, you excel and flourish when things are at their worst
      and you actively work to make things around you better.

    Put simply, things happen to us that we can’t control. But how we react to the situation
    will determine our level of happiness. Change sometimes feels like being on a rollercoaster. The ups and downs can make you quite sick and some days
    make you want to scream “Get me off”.

    Life just doesn’t let you off though, but when things calm down, like the ride finishing, you can reflect on what you learnt. May you have enough happiness
    to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

    The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes their way. The brightest future
    will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

    “I am a coffee bean”. That is my current mantra. It is easy for people and books to say “don’t stress” or “go with the flow and great things will come”,
    but sometimes it’s impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel. That’s why we need to work on staying positive and motivated. Zig Ziglar astutely
    said, “Motivation doesn’t last. Bathing doesn’t either. That’s why I recommend it daily”.

    • Do you feel lost and confused?
    • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
    • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
    • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
    • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
    • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
    • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
    • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
    • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

    I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
    you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

    • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
    • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
    • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the
      innate intelligence of the natural world. In life we will all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however,
      for each individual and for every different journey there is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed
      to support us to create and live the life we want.
    • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise
      the gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

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    Are You Emotionally Stressed

    Are You Emotionally Stressed

    Every time you think or feel an emotion, it has an effect on your body and your body releases chemicals. When you feel happy your brain creates serotonin,
    dopamine or oxytocin. When you are stressed your body releases cortisol.

    These chemicals make your body react in different ways either positively or negatively. In reality, there is not actually a positive or negative, only
    your perception of it! When you understand this, then you will realise you have a choice about how you feel or react. Our perception of an experience
    is everything and yet the first step is accepting the situation as it is and how you feel.

    The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. This might just
    be a play on words but the word “loneliness” was created to express the pain of being alone, and the word “solitude” to express the glory of being
    alone. Is it a play on words or more about how you perceive them? Don’t try to understand everything. Sometimes it is not meant to be understood, just
    accepted.

    This is exactly why I try and look at the positive in everything. The difficulties in life are intended to make us better, not bitter. Emotions and experiences are energy and your body processes and stores them. This can make you healthy or sick. Your body is connected
    to your mind, you can have destructive thoughts, and this creates bad feelings.



    When you feel happier you give off that vibe and your body feels happier. Is it “your sign finding you” or “you finding you sign”? Does it matter how your
    sign finds you? No! Some days I wear butterfly jewellery just so I know I am surrounded and protected. Other times I see butterflies as tattoos or
    stickers on cars.

    No matter where I encounter my sign, I consider it as important in some way. I have butterfly stickers on by bathroom mirror. Some days I just don’t notice
    them. Looking for your sign or seeing it is the same thing and either way it doesn’t matter. Encountering your sign is always a positive thing.

    • Do you feel lost and confused?
    • Are you constantly second guessing yourself?
    • Lack self-confidence and self-esteem?
    • Do you have no patience and snap at the kids?
    • Does your heart race and beat so loud and yet you can’t explain why?
    • Mental heaviness weighting you down making you exhausted?
    • Not sleeping well and constantly tired and foggy?
    • Constantly helping others and racing around but have no time or energy for yourself?
    • Feel guilty all the time and out of control?

    I hope you enjoyed this exert from my book the Road to Resilience. The book is a journey, where
    you will discover the keys to being confident, calm and in control no matter what life presents:

    • There is a better way to LIVE your LIFE. Stop trying to cope and get by and learn how to move beyond the CHAOS right now
    • What would your life look and feel like if every challenge you faced was actually supporting you?
    • The Road to Resilience is an easy-to-follow insight on understanding and working with the innate
      intelligence of the natural world. In life we will all walk a very individual journey peppered with challenge and confrontation, however, for each
      individual and for every different journey there is an ever-connected sub-conscious rhythm of life that when understood can be harnessed to support
      us to create and live the life we want.
    • If you are ready to get out of your head and tap into the knowingness that life can be more – for you and your family – take a moment to realise the
      gift in your hands and indulge in a new way of being – your way of being.

    Photo credit www.unsplash.com